First impressions – you only get one
The problem with first impressions is, you only get one.
If you meet someone and they act really nice to you then you’ll go on thinking they’re OK. If they act like a dick though it’s terribly hard to change your mind.
I’m a sucker for it. If I meet someone and I think they’re too arrogant, they’re aggressive or just a knob then I take so long to change my mind.
Recently I have met a handful of new people and as lovely as people say they are I just can’t seem to change my mind on them.
Maybe I got a bad vibe from them, maybe they said something I didn’t agree with or maybe they were just themselves and it just wasn’t my cup of tea.
I don’t think people should have to put on an act though. If you don’t like someone, or they don’t like you, you shouldn’t have to adapt for them and vice-versa.
I will try my best (and not always succeed) at being civil. But when I’m past the point of caring what someone thinks then I’ll just give up – often to the chagrin of J.
I do think that opinions can change though. Growing up I was surrounded by people I was so sure I hated who then went on to do something lovely for me, or someone I cared about.
But the problem still remains. First impressions are so important because you really do only get one.
I’m not naïve enough to think that I’m immune from this though. I’m aware sometimes I have a marmite personality. The difference is, I don’t give two shits.